Fastest way to gauge her interest:
Ask for her phone number.
way you explain things has
shown me how the mistakes I made in the past
got me nowhere with women. I'm really getting
somewhere with the opposite sex now and it feels
very very good. I wish there were more nights
in a week. You need to add another tip
called "how to handle all the women
who want to date you"." KB - Denver
On the road of love you are either driving, riding, or walking.
Where do you want to be?
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The First Step to Success with Internet Dating
Before Internet dating there were classified personal ads in newspapers and magazines. They still exist, but they don't provide the instant gratification of the Internet.
I had fantastic success with classified ads when I lived in Los Angeles. I had little money, an old car and a lived in a rented apartment. I placed a personal ad in Los Angeles Magazine which was read by just about every single woman in the greater L.A. area. (This was before Internet dating sites existed) I asked for a written response with a photo and phone number.
I must have written a very good ad because I got 187 letters. Mostly from Southern California but also from far away including Georgia and Guam! I guess people passing through would pick up a copy of the mag at the airport.
I spent the next few months meeting a lot of women! And I ended up in a relationship with one especially eager-and willing to please-beauty.
Here's what I learned. And this applies to Internet dating as well:
Women lie about their weight, their age and how recent their picture is.
Lie might be a harsh word here. Let's just say they can be misleading. (Of course so can men, but I'm not talking about men, am I?)
The Big Mistake .
At first I spent a lot of time talking on the phone with a lot of the women who responded to my ad.
Talk, talk, talk, talk, talk.
Then we met and I was disappointed.
So I changed my tactic and used the phone to just set up that first meeting.
It was always in a safe place like a coffee shop. And it was always for a short time, during the day.
Don't spend a lot of money on someone you don't know but think you're going to like.
When you connect with someone on an Internet dating site and you think you want to meet, schedule that meeting as soon as possible.
If she wants to "get to know you" on the phone, or chatting on line first, move on to the next. She CAN'T get to know you on line or on the phone and you can't get to know her. That can only happen in person.
Here's the deal: You play a certain role and display a certain side of your personality when you're on-line or answering a personal ad on the phone.
You have a 'cyber-personality' and you have a 'phone-personality.' And if you do–so does SHE. Chances are those personalities are not the real you. Makes sense, doesn't it?
The longer you and she go on communicating on-line, or on the phone without that first date, the more likely you are to be disillusioned and disappointed when you do have your first date. And the more likely she is to be disillusioned and disappointed when she has that first date with you.
There are those who say that getting to know the person will help make that first in-person meeting more successful. Possibly. But, don't kid yourself. In this situation you aren't actually getting to know that person, you're getting to know the telephone person, the Internet person–not the 'real' person.
Make this your goal:
Get to the first date as soon as possible.
The person YOU are when you are with HER, face-to-face, and the person SHE is when she is with YOU, face-to-face, are the people who will decide on your future together.
If there's a photo sent, be sure it's a RECENT photo so there will be no surprises. But even then, you must realize a photograph is nothing more than a split-second of time displaying what someone looked like at that specific time in the history of the Universe. It really tells you very little about future possibilities with that woman. It tells you nothing about the real person except how she can look in a particular split second.
While dating services and Internet-dating are currently popular in our world, they are simply preliminary steps toward the BEST way to meet someone–up close, and in person. Nothing means anything until that happens. So get to that meeting as soon as you can–without seeming too eager.
Matt's Method - TIP #6
Internet Dating -- get to the first date as soon as possible ...