If her Interest Level is higher than yours, she will look up to you and respect you.
Don't do something that may diminish or reduce that respect.
And remember, SHE remembers EVERYTHING!
So be prepared to do and say things you want her to remember that will move the relationship in the direction you want it to go.
Matt's Method - TIP #14
Dating & Mating Secrets ...
Part 3 Think Before You Speak Your words will have consequences
Guys want things to happen right now.
The car isn't starting, so we pop the hood and fix the problem. We get results immediately.
She's not reacting the way you want-so you tell her more about yourself. Oops.
It doesn't work that way. Remember, she is going to do what she wants to do when she wants to do it, and with whom...so relax.
When the seed is planted, you can't hurry the growing. If all the conditions are right, the seed will grow. Its a natural law. Ask any farmer.
In romantic relationships the man tends to rush in, headfirst into rejection. But if you take the right steps with CONFIDENCE, in Control while staying a Challenge, you ELEVATE her Interest Level.
When you come to an unfamiliar intersection you stop, look and listen. You must do the same with her. Stop, Look, and Listen. Especially in the first 60 days of the relationship.
Stop and think before you talk. (No Negatives).
Look at the way she reacts.
And Listen to what she is really saying.
You will never hear a woman say, "I'm getting rid of my boyfriend (or husband) because he is too positive. I know he has problems like everyone else, but he doesn't talk about them with me so I'm dumping him."
Positives raise and reinforce her Interest in you, negatives don't.
Negatives only 'test' her Interest in you.
If you pick your nose on the first date, you're out. If you pick yournose after ten years of a good marriage, she will talk to you about it.
You should only tell her you have a police record after she loves you. Get it?
In other words, after ten years in your relationship with this woman you have hopefully established a great rapport. So picking your nose won't be a major turn-off. How she'll feel about your career as a bank robber may be another story though.
You're on your first date and she asks you, "Do you date many women?"
You say, "You are my first date...ever."
A woman with a bad attitude and low Interest will get mad or accuse you of playing games after that answer. A woman with a good attitude and high Interest will see you as a Challenge, and say to herself, "I'll get the real answer out of him later."
You've just whet her appetite. You are interesting. You automatically seem more attractive.
Let's put you into "Interview" mode.
You ask her why she dropped her last five guys and she will reinforce Matt's Method.
How? By pointing out the Negatives, not Positives, of those guys she will indicate it was the Negatives that turned her off.
IMPORTANT POINT: Don't lie but DO find out all about her before she finds out all about you.
To put it another way, find out all about her before you start blabbing all about yourself. It's about being interested in the other person instead of doing the "it's all about me" thing.
You're finding out about her first and you're coming across as a great and interested guy at the same time.
That makes you a winner, setting you apart from all the jerks she meets out there.