Nick's sister is the busiest casting director in Hollywood.
She might meet someone better while they're out on the date. That's how she met Nick.
Her refrigerator is empty.
She and her girlfriend (who also gives her number to too many guys), love to have a drink and laugh at the silly messages men leave on their answering machines.
Ashley can only have one date with Nick because she is moving to New York in three days. She will tell him after she gobbles up that expensive dinner and dessert.
As you can see, there could be any number of ulterior motives-or maybe she really is interested in getting to know Nick.
Ashley told her girlfriend she is going out with Nick for the first time, "Just to have fun and see what happens."
Nick is going out with Ashley to raise her Interest Level and to get a sense of her attitude.
As someone learning how to have Better Dates Now, can you see what is going on here?
Obviously, each has a separate agenda.
Ashley is really going out with Nick because she has 65% Interest Level and wants to see if Nick meets her requirements for a second date.
However, much more is going on and he may not discover it until it's too late.
Danny in Denver once dated the 'perfect woman.' She was everything he had dreamed about and he thought they both wanted the same things from their relationship.
But after he married her, she suddenly came up with a million things that she wanted to do–but had never told him about–before the marriage.
Danny was shocked and dismayed because her idea of their future together was completely different from what they had talked about.
It seemed as if she had changed overnight.
Apparently from the beginning, lurking in her mind, she had plans–a separate agenda that completely disregarded any of Danny's feelings.
He didn't see it coming. He compared his wife to a double agent. He said she was like a James Bond girl, working for the enemy.
She would actually appear to work for the betterment of the partnership, but in reality was working only for herself and her agenda.
Many women fit that profile but they would be reluctant to admit they have their own agenda.
If Danny in Denver had known about Matt's Method he would have been able to recognize–early on– the signs that they were dancing to a different drummer.
He would have noticed that she was always interested in dining out, but never offered to make him dinner at her place. (Not a giver)
He would have seen that she was not willing to do the things he wanted to do. (Not flexible)
He would have realized that he was only too happy to please her and willing to do anything she wanted, thereby furthering her agenda. (He was not a challenge for her)
Danny missed the signs, concentrating on his own level of interest in his 'dream girl.'
He gave up his control and didn't realize it until it was too late. Now the lawyers will be the winners.
Armed with Matt's Method you don't have to make the mistake Danny made.
When you first get her private phone number you have no way of knowing if she has a secret agenda.
Your first, step is to make sure her level of interest stays higher than yours.
Why? Because that will insure that your agenda takes precedent.
The one with the lower interest level controls the relationship because the partner with the higher level of interest is more willing to compromise. The one with the higher level doesn't want to blow it. Simple as that.